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[lgw3]

I got engaged to my wife when she was 19. I was 25. It's not uncommon ...go for it!

[Lesley]

Congratulations on your engagement!

Yes, 19 is very young! But...I was married at 19 after dating good old Bob for 4 years. We will be celebrating the 34th anniversary of the day we met (if he remembers, LOL) in October and our 30th wedding anniversary in January.

Plenty of people will tell you you're too young but only you know for sure. If you have any doubts, wait. Most important, be HAPPY!

[gsw]

I was married at 19 and it was way to young for me, but you may be a lot different than I was.

Originally Posted by cbbohler

I just thought I would ask you guys for fun. I'm 19 years old, my fiance is 21. We have been together for three years and we have decided to get married, I'm happy and excited, but when I tell people I'm getting married they look at me like my head is put on backwards. People ask me why I would get married young, is it really that odd now a days to get married young?

What do you all think?

[Jay0n44444]

No its not too young, don't worry about what other people think. If its right for you, you will know it. Good luck and congrats!

[handy49]

19 and mature (meaning both of you) is not bad. My suggestion thou is to wait before having kids, marital waters run deep so you need that time and space to be each others best friend.

[Lucky777]

Originally Posted by spadeslover

If he is a good person, if you truly feel that you love him and he loves you, grab him and never let him go. Go with your heart.

Make sure you have all the important discussions- kids? College? And how will you support yourself during school? And if you have kids who is going to stay home while the other goes to work? Something to be discussed before the wedding, not after.

Good luck

Originally Posted by sbservices

Age has very little to do with marriage working. It has to do with maturity.

I have seen people mature at 17 and immature at 30.... so make sure that you both can communicate with each other and you both have the same goals...

Good luck... and congrats on the engagement.... and btw, there isn't anything wrong with long engagements.

Congrats and i think the two above sum it all up!!!

Just remember that a relationship (married or not) is work... it also has great perks and payouts but it is definately not all hearts and flowers!!! I think people get too lazy and too selfish to make a relationship really work and that is why the divorce rate is so high... not so much because people marry to young. You need to be friends... you need to give eachother space to be individuals and not just a couple... and you need to know that you will work thru hard times and not give up on eachother in order to get thru those rough patches (every relationship has them!) If you feel ready and your in love... and you have talked about the important things then dont worry about what other people say and follow your heart!!!

[mjitems]

Congratulations to your fiance and good luck. I was 19 and my husband was 21 when we decided to get married and we are still happy after 21 years of marriage. My daughter on the other hand says that your brain is not fully mature until you are 25. Just where would she be if we had waited that long.

[cm1979]

I don't think its the age that matters, I do how ever believe it matters if you and your mate have the maturity to handle the situations that come with a legal bond.

Also remember before that wonderful day comes to sit down and discuss your debt. LOL... How much that sounds silly its the best thing to do. Because its one of the #1 reasons why marriages fall apart. Due to money.

Good luck

[ainz1138]

Statistically the deck is stacked against you. I think the divorce rate for people so young is more than 90%. Who cares about statistics though, if you are meant to be together you should be. I have a friend thats been with the same girl from the age of 13 to 37 and they are still going strong.

[monksmom]

Originally Posted by cbbohler

I just thought I would ask you guys for fun. I'm 19 years old, my fiance is 21. We have been together for three years and we have decided to get married, I'm happy and excited, but when I tell people I'm getting married they look at me like my head is put on backwards. People ask me why I would get married young, is it really that odd now a days to get married young?

What do you all think?

IF you are marrying your best friend, the one you can see yourself rocking in rockers with in 60 years - the one who's lost their figure and perhaps even got a gnarl or two in the hand you're holding, then it's a good thing:)

IF you are getting married 'cause it seems like the right thing to do...I'd suggest...don't do it for a few years at least.

IF you are getting married because friends are (either hers or yours) then I'd suggest...don't do it for a few years at least...marriage should not be for fad but forever, eh? :)

And lastly? See the first one again...'cause I can assure you, once the lust and the laughter and the giggling and all that good stuff has waned a bit due to life forces and the multitude of challenges a couple will face over a lifetime, it's gonna be your bestest friend that stays close to you and can still provide what is left...intimacy...THAT is what we ultimately require:) Good luck, whatever you do!!