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cbbohler · 08-12-2009, 03:39 PM

I just thought I would ask you guys for fun. I'm 19 years old, my fiance is 21. We have been together for three years and we have decided to get married, I'm happy and excited, but when I tell people I'm getting married they look at me like my head is put on backwards. People ask me why I would get married young, is it really that odd now a days to get married young?

What do you all think?

bdonees · 08-12-2009, 04:10 PM

Go for it..and good luck..BTW, congrats.

spadeslover · 08-12-2009, 04:11 PM

If he is a good person, if you truly feel that you love him and he loves you, grab him and never let him go. Go with your heart.

Make sure you have all the important discussions- kids? College? And how will you support yourself during school? And if you have kids who is going to stay home while the other goes to work? Something to be discussed before the wedding, not after.

Good luck

jenp27 · 08-12-2009, 04:16 PM

whichever way you decide to go you will learn many lessons and a great deal about yourself and partner. good luck!

Smokeylynn · 08-12-2009, 04:17 PM

First of all, congratulations! Statistically, it is young and the majority of those marriages fail. If you are sure , just know, you have to work really, really hard at it all the time and it will be all good!

SpacePirate197X · 08-17-2009, 07:46 PM

19 isn't too young. I've seen it go both ways. One thing that's important is honesty. You two have to communicate and be upfront with what you want. If there's a problem get it out in the open and don't hide anything. I've seen marriages broken because of people hiding things from each other. Also know there will be problems and they will be a lot easier if you two work together and trust one another. My wife and I have been married for 10 years now and while we have our fights (usually over bills) however I trust her with my life. Another suggestion don't think you need to run out and do everything at once. Get your fiances in order first, then comes the fun stuff. You two are young and have plenty of time to live. Sorry I'm so long winded :) Congrats and hope you have many wonderful years together.

SPX.

sbservices · 08-17-2009, 08:00 PM

Age has very little to do with marriage working. It has to do with maturity.

I have seen people mature at 17 and immature at 30.... so make sure that you both can communicate with each other and you both have the same goals...

Good luck... and congrats on the engagement.... and btw, there isn't anything wrong with long engagements.

edgaralias · 08-19-2009, 06:32 AM

Congratulations and good luck. I I myself think it is too young for most people but i dont know your exact situations. so for you who knows. and like sdservices said there is nothing wrong with long engagements, like 3 or 4 years long. lol regardless, best wishes, william

Wilica80 · 08-19-2009, 07:03 AM

First of all, Congrats on your engagment! Second as some have said it's not age but maturity. I'm 29yr old newelywed & people also asked me WHY i was getting married for?! I was so surprised cause, they would say the divorce rate is so high now a days so what's the point in it! People told me I'm wasting my money and famous people like Brad & Angelina aren't even doing it! LOL!!!
Don't listen to anyone, it's worth it if you're following your heart & both of you are 100% sure you want to do it. Also you can have a 2-3yr or more long engagement & marry after you graduate college or have saved enough money for a honeymoon. Which ever you do, now or later just be sure you've both talked about what your future plans are (from what state you want to live, what jobs you want to have, how many kids & how you want to raise them etc.). I'm a big Dr.Phil and Dr.Laura (christain lady version of Dr.Phil) fan. Both have a list of 10 or 12 things you should discuss or know about eachother before getting married. Google it up when you get a chance, it's really good and makes sense when you read it. It made me prolong my engagment a little longer (because Dr.Phil says you shouldn't get married till you can honestly answer "no" to ALL 10 questions). Good luck & best wishes! ;)

kazoo2020 · 08-19-2009, 07:49 AM

I would think 19 is too young to be engaged. For some that may not be the case but you see too often those who get married at too young of age find their marriages never last.

08-12-2009, 04:10 PM	#2
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08-12-2009, 03:39 PM	#1
cbbohler cbbohler is will be back on tonight. User is Offline TR: 9 / 100% Status: Brown Paper Bag Join Date: Jan 2009 Posts: 95	Is 19 too young to be engaged? I just thought I would ask you guys for fun. I'm 19 years old, my fiance is 21. We have been together for three years and we have decided to get married, I'm happy and excited, but when I tell people I'm getting married they look at me like my head is put on backwards. People ask me why I would get married young, is it really that odd now a days to get married young? What do you all think?

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08-19-2009, 06:32 AM	#8
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